It's coming up on a year ago that I found out I was pregnant. At this very same time last year I had no clue what was about to happen to my life. I'm feeling a bit reminiscent. I'm going through papers while trying to do my taxes and going over those first and last few months of last year. Those receipts pulled up little goodbye memories....Ruby's Restaraunt $15.64 - Sunday breakfast with him. Annabella Resort Disneyland - a little getaway. Valentines Day at the Hilton in Del Mar. A trip to Target and M & M's...
It's a bitter pill to swallow. He doesn't want to get to know him. Even after seeing and holding his beautiful son. I don't get it. Will I ever? I doubt it. When I was pregnant I'd think about how he'd come around while I was pregnant, if I could only convince him...Then, when I was in the hospital waiting to give birth, I phoned him, hoping he'd come for the birth. Instead I heard a woman cough in the background. I asked him about his relationship with her. Was he with her? "It's none of your business" he said. I cried in my hospital room, alone. Even so, I still held out hope he'd want to know his son after he was born. He arrived at the hospital the day after Jack was born. He stuck around for a couple of hours, posed for some obligatory photos, we hugged and played nice, then he left. I wanted him to stay the night with us. I STILL held on hope he'd want to be a father to his son. Delusional you might say? Now, after writing this at this very moment - I see and I agree. Up 'til now I've still wanted to keep him on the line, to not upset him, so he'd change his mind and want his son. He sends money on occasion, sends emails to him about "us". Sends little things in the mail, but makes excuses for not seeing him. He was always good at playing the thoughtful fun guy. Do I want him playing with my son? "No money" he says, yet I;, sure he has money and time to do other things. I'm very sure his financial situation won't stop him from going on his annual vacation.
So, why do I try and pound it through my head? Why do I repeat these same things over and over again? Most likely cause I can't believe it. I can't believe this whole thing happened. sometimes I look at my son in shock. Wow. What a big deal! He's here! I'm so glad he is.